How to dress your dating profile？如何扮靓你的约会资料？ 时间:2018-08-21 单词数:6390
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There are some 46 million people in the world using the dating app Tinder. Countless more are searching for a mate on Bumble, Happn or — for the snobby yet painfully insecure — Raya, a “private members’ service” that rejects anyone who doesn’t have a solid stock of Instagram followers or a minor IMDb credit. Across all these apps, there is a common theme: most of the men are wearing terrible outfits in their profile photos. Perhaps a trilby. Perhaps Lycra cycling gear. Perhaps a Superdry T-shirt. Perhaps no top at all.
Contemporary commentary likes to paint women as obsessives, endlessly scrolling in search of love, fruitlessly hunting for a gem among the melee of selfies. “Where are the good ones?” asks a female friend, thumbs exhausted.
Where indeed? More than 60 per cent of app users are men, which makes the shortage of prospects even more outrageous. But most have no idea how to present themselves online. What would persuade a decent guy with a solid job, a tolerable personality and a normal bunch of human friends, to put on a pair of Elton John-style star-shaped glasses and use it as his profile pic? Is that pocket square a good idea? Or that cartoon tie? That’s not even your dog, is it?
Then there are the prop guys who have a car, or boat, or golf clubs in every shot. Or the workout guys, who only use images shot in the gym. Others like to include an image of themselves with a baby, captioned with the caveat “not mine”. No thanks.
What can men do better? Carbino has some tips. “Always smile in photos. Smiling increases men’s likelihood of being swiped right on by 14 per cent. Men should also always face forward in their photographs. Facing forward increases their likelihood of being swiped right on by 20 per cent.” (On these points, women should also take note.)
She is dismissive of the selfie. “I think they are my biggest pet peeve — they are highly ineffective. Photos in the mirror or at the gym reduce a man’s likelihood of being swiped right on. Selfies convey that an individual is narcissistic, which is one of the least appealing characteristics in a potential partner.”
As for clothes, profile-dressing is an art, she argues. “The profile should be considered a book and every photo in that book should be considered a chapter.” For one of those chapters, she suggests a suit. “Men wearing formal clothes are perceived as being more serious by potential partners and thereby more attractive.” Perhaps that explains the popularity of the ubiquitous “best man” photograph.
I turn to Jenny, a successful 30-something art director and dating-app enthusiast, to see if she agrees. Her focus, unsurprisingly, is on the basics. “Why can’t men format a photo?” she asks. About one in three have their profile picture cropped so tight you can’t even see their ears. “You should never see someone’s face that close before you’ve met them. It’s actually scary?.?.?.?” To demonstrate her point, she gets out her iPhone and begins flicking through profiles. “Face is too large, face is too large. Another big face on my big phone — it fills the screen. It’s the number one problem.” Overzealous zooming is not her only bugbear. She also loathes anyone in fancy dress. Jenny points at her phone. “Take this guy — I guess he’s dressed up as Pee-wee Herman. Or maybe that’s just him — we don’t know.”
There are many other no-nos. Do not take photographs that show off a messy house — a dirty pile of clothes is not a good backdrop. Do not upload group photographs, so your potential date is faced with some strange Where’s Wally-like challenge to find you. And never, ever upload a single photo — it suggests you’re hiding something.
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