Panorama: Can violent men ever change?家暴男能通过教育改掉陋习么？ 时间:2018-10-11 单词数:3690
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Every year more than a million people are victims of domestic abuse in the UK. Often the focus is on helping the victim find safety - but what of the abusers? Should they be given help? And can they change?
Andrew found himself wanting to change when he faced the prospect of losing his family.
He had been abusive to his partner, Emma, injuring her a number of times.
After his violence escalated, he moved out and Emma struggled to cope with their children.
They were later removed from their care.
Emma was offered courses to support her as she tried to move on from the abusive relationship and rebuild her self-esteem. However, Andrew was looking for something for himself.
He wanted to stop abusing his partner and sought help. He found Phoenix Domestic Abuse Service, which offered a weekly programme to help men confront their actions and change their behaviour.
想要停止虐待伴侣并寻求帮助的他找到了菲尼克斯家庭暴力服务中心（Phoenix Domestic Abuse Service），在那里接受每周一次的辅导。这个中心旨在帮助男性直面他们的行为并，为之做出改变。
Andrew remembers his first time at Phoenix, walking into a room full of "big blokes, mean looking blokes" and thinking "Oh, what have I done?"
But after seven months on the course he has formed a bond with the group and says he is beginning to understand the effects of his behaviour.
Every week he was challenged on his behaviour and had to confront his actions.
The course uses role-play, problem-solving tasks, and challenging discussions to teach the men about the impact of their actions.
I’m not proud of who I was then, but I am proud of who I am now, he says.
Emma says she recognises the transformation in Andrew.
He’s different. We talk more, he listens, she says.
They were separated for two years but are now together again and are working to get their children back.
Lidia, who helped Andrew through the course, said it is important to intervene because "if no one does any work with that person then they are likely to go on and find another victim.
Their next relationship is likely to become abusive.
Phoenix sees both sides of abusive relationships on a weekly basis, believing the abuser and the abused partner both need support - either together or apart - if they hope to break out of the violent cycle.
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